Am I a Man Hater?

Is it better to have love and lost than never to have loved at all? 

My friends love men and find themselves hurt by them on a regular basis. Almost daily my phone rings with stories of betrayal, insecurity, and miscommunication. I listen, offer comfort, and give advice. Some of their stories about the selfish men they date make me furious and I encourage them to move on.

I know, dating is hard and loneliness can hurt, but it’s better
to be alone than with a selfish, uncaring, person man or woman. 

I have seen love. 

I know good men, men who love the woman in their lives. They protect, provide, and care for their woman. They support, champion, and scream out to the world about how wonderful she is. And she is. The women I know who are loved by a man, are amazing women. They are supportive, caring, and respectful of their man. They are his cheerleader, his confident, and his best friend.

I have seen love modelled my whole life, in my grandparents’, my parents’, my uncle’s, my aunt’s, my cousins’, and my brother’s relationships. They have a partnership, which makes both people stronger.

Am I a man hater?

I am scared of men hurting me. I’ll admit that.

I am angry at how some single men behave and how they don’t care about whom they hurt. Their bad behaviour is how the idea for the series 40 Something came about.

Do I hate all men?
No, just the single middle aged ones. 😉

No, I do not hate them. I struggle to understand them. I know there are some  who don’t care about women beyond the physical and don’t care whom they hurt as long as they get what they are after.

There are plenty of women who behave badly too.

There are very few single middle aged men who treat a woman like a lady. However, many weren’t brought up to and women have punished them if they even tried to be chivalrous. The sexual revolution and feminism have freed women to behave like men and now men find what they want so easily, they don’t have to behave, love, or even commit.

I get it. Doesn’t mean I have to put up with it. After all, online dating sites have lots of men and maybe one will know how to treat a lady properly. Until them …

I chose to be single.

Does that make me a man hater?


The Man Hater in 40 Something 

copy-of-40something-6The character Charlie, in my series 40 Something, is a man hater. She’s been hurt and overlooked because she believes she doesn’t fit the young, good looking, image media says successful men are drawn to and she blames men for her plight. Is it the fault of men or her own insecurities?

Men Suck, I hate them All

I’ve paired her with Lindsay, a woman who loves men for who they are, short comings and all.

I’ve created male characters who love their wives and are ‘good’ to woman. Gus is the perfect husband, the provider, and protector. His brother Gary is in touch with women’s pain and offers his help whenever it is needed, however, he does not see his wife who is too introverted to voice her needs.

I want 40 Something to be a reflection of being a 40 something person in the 21st Century and that includes man haters, man lovers, and men themselves.

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Shannon Peel is the author of 40 Something, Captive, and  THIRTEEN. For more information check out her website.www.shannonpeel.com

Officer & a Gentleman Movie

To write really good characters you have to know how they would react to things. So if my characters got together for a movie night at Rose’s place to watch an Officer and a Gentleman, would they all agree? Let’s find out.

The Question

What are your thoughts about the last scene of an Officer and a Gentleman?

Sophie’s Thoughts

The ending? Oh well. It was romantic I guess. I mean. There she is working in a dead end job, unhappy, and knowing that’s all she has to look forward to. Depressing. I guess she’s young and there will be other men, other classes of officers. But she is hurt because he didn’t want her, he was gonna leave her behind. Then he walked in and saved her, took her away, and everyone cheered. Heck, I cheered even though I knew it was gonna happen.

Why is it wrong to want that? I mean. I want so bad for a man to come save me from my life, sweep me off my feet and carry me away to a safer one. Make life easier. Happier. But everyone tells me it’s wrong to want that. I won’t find a good guy if I need one to save me and I’m beginning to believe them. No man wants a woman as messed up as me and I can’t blame them.

Click to find out more about Sophie.

Rose’s Thoughts

I just love the classic love stories they are so romantic. Here she was working away thinking that he’d abandoned her and then he comes all dressed up in his white uniform looking so handsome. To surprise her like that, pick her up in front of all her co workers and carry her away into the sunset to live happily ever after. What a story. I cried.

You know Gus is romantic like that. Once, before the kids, he came to my workplace with a big bouquet of flowers. He’d already arranged everything with my boss, a week off, can you imagine. Gus had planned everything, packed my suitcase and took me to Hawaii for our first wedding anniversary. It was so romantic. Just like him. I love him so much.

Click to find out more about Rose.

Lindsay’s Thoughts

The ending? Well a man in uniform is so sexy. When he walked in all confident in his uniform looking hot, I thought yummy. Then when he grabbed her head and just took a kiss from her like that, wowza. The rest was too tame though. Way too censored in my opinion, but what can you expect from the 80s. Come on, the scene needed more heat.

I love a man who takes what he wants, just comes and grabs a woman all cave man like and she melts into him with passion, heat, then they fu** hard. That’s what that scene needed. Now that would have been something to clap for.

Click to find out more about who Lindsay is 

Charlie’s Thoughts

The whole movie was Bull shi**. Men don’t give two craps about saving some poor little woman from her life and what a pathetic thing to want. Clapping because he’d showed up and stole her away for what? Come on men don’t do that sh**.  They just want someone to cook for ’em and fu** em. They don’t want to be bothered with all that touchy feely stuff.

OK so some of them are into the whole romance thing, like my brother in law Gus. But Gus and guys like him are so, I don’t know. Gus is a good guy, a nice guy, a family guy. Those guys are all married to woman like my sister Rose.

Strong, independent, career women like me, we got selfish guys who are focused on their careers as much as we are focused on ours. Who has time for all that romantic stuff. I just don’t trust it. The only reason they are doing it is to get laid, so why bother it’s not real.imgres

Click to find out more about Charlie.

What are your thoughts about the ending to the movie an Officer and a Gentleman?

Share them in the comments below.

 

Buy the novella – Sunday Dinner From Amazon.

Purpose of this Blog

This blog is a look at the characters in a new novel about being a 40+ year old woman in today’s world. The novel, like all literature, draws from real life but embellishes it, changes it, and merges it together with fantasy. You won’t find a 100% true story on the blog or in the novel. I welcomes any parenting or dating stories you would like to share for the book, but please understand the story will only be a jump off point as I’m not about to publish anything exactly as it happened. Email her today at Shannonpeel01[ at ]gmail [.com]

And yes…. Dating stories about women behaving badly are welcome too, as my characters are flawed and handicapped when it comes to dating.

 

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Shannon Peel is the author of THIRTEEN, a marketing professional, a single mom, and a divorced woman trying to find love in Vancouver, BC Canada. Her daily life is filled with struggle, humour, love, and stories. She encourages you to follow her and come along this journey with her. 

http://www.shannonpeel.com

Sophie – The Tragic One

When you write a novel you have to know your characters inside and out. The more developed the characters, the more believable and empathetic they are. The aim of any good writer is to draw the reader in by making their characters relatable.

For this novel there are a number of characters and each one has their own back story, personality, likes, dislikes, and attitudes. Sophie is one of these characters.

Demographics

Name: Sophie Harris
Age: 43 years old
Status: Recently Separated
Occupation: Many failed ones
Children: Two one boy 10 and one girl 7
Body Type: Petite and slim

Personality

Sophie is a tragic woman who tries in life but doesn’t succeed. For her life is one daily struggle after another resulting in chronic depression and stress ailments. She really does try hard, thing is she gets it wrong more times than she gets it right and those who claim to love her beat her down her. She is beaten down, submissive, and doesn’t trust herself thanks to years of conditioning from a lifetime of abuse.

People see her as weak, whiny at times, and not worth their time. At least that is what she thinks, it’s not the truth. Those who know her see a strong, capable woman struggling and surviving. Yes she is a tragic figure with her clearance rack, ill fitting, clothes and do it yourself die job. She’s never had anyone put her first and does not know how to believe she’s worth the money to polish her appearance.

She struggles daily with demons telling her she is not good enough, she is worthless, and doesn’t deserve to be happy because let’s face it, she’s tragic. She fights these demons with a strong mind and an even stronger will. She wants a better life, she wants success, she wants to be loved, and she knows she deserves it. Problem is, life and those who claim to love her have given her evidence to the opposite and her will falters under the proof that she isn’t worth what she hopes she is.

She isn’t outgoing and prefers to be alone. She gets scared in large noisy groups of people and feels safer in quiet places. She is a fierce lioness where her kids are concerned and protects them with a venom so dangerous it seems like over kill and an inappropriate response to most people.

She is not the kind of person people seek out to spend time with and if it wasn’t for her friend Rose she’d be alone all the time. She doesn’t mind being alone except when the demons get too loud and the pain gets too much to bear.

Marriage

At first Sophie’s marriage to Craig was like any marriage and they were both somewhat happy, then life happened and wore them both down. The marriage became a long struggle for her as she tried to please her husband who was never happy and didn’t appreciate her. Over the years Craig’s drinking became heavier and more violent.  He blamed her for his perceived failures, even though she did everything she could to support him, while simultaneously trying to succeed in her own endavors with no support from him.

Little by little the power dynamic shifted until Sophie had no power and felt what she wanted didn’t matter at all. She stopped wanting, she stopped dreaming, and she stopped hoping. Craig’s angry outbursts were uncontrollable and directed at her. He called her terrible things, said she was worthless, and incapable of getting anything right. This took its toll and she still struggles with the lies he told her.

Finally, he had enough and wanted out but did not want to lose any of his economic status, the house, or his stuff. His frustration at having her in his life came out in violent anger and soon she had no option but to leave the house with the children.

Family

Sophie’s mom is a very opinionated, competitive, and strong woman who controls everyone and everything around her. She needs to be the best, have the best, and that included kids. No matter what Sophie did growing up, it wasn’t good enough for her mother who expected perfection. Second place was never good, B’s should be A’s and heaven forbid Sophie be the topic of any rumour in the small town they lived in.

Though her mother expected perfection, she did not expect Sophie to amount to much more than a housewife and mother. Any time Sophie dreamed of being something that her mother didn’t think fit into her plans for Sophie’s life, her mother informed her that she didn’t have what it took to do that. Support came with strings and as long as Sophie towed the line she was given approval and love, the minute she didn’t, support was non existent, criticism heaped on, and love withheld.

Her father died when Sophie was young and her mom remarried a man who was successful in the business world, easy going, and liked little girls. Sophie’s mom turned a blind eye to what was happening under her roof because it was more important to look perfect to the world than air out dirty laundry. Besides, he supported them financially and gave them the socio economic life her mother wanted.

She has a couple half brothers who are much younger, spoiled, and entitled. Where Sophie could do no right, her brothers could do no wrong and they just ignore Sophie.

Likes / Dislikes

Sophie has no idea what she likes or dislikes. She just exists and believes she doesn’t matter enough to want anything. It’s been so long since she wanted something for herself she has no idea what she wants anymore. She tells herself she is content with what life has given her and makes do.

Ideal Man

Sophie just wants to be loved. She wants a man who will take care of her, protect her, see her, love her, give her a life she never thought possible. She desperately wants a boyfriend who will invite her to move in with him, make her safe and take care of her and her children.

She just wants to feel safe and protected.

 

The start of Sophie’s story

 

Buy the novella – Sunday Dinner From Amazon.

Purpose of this Blog

This blog is a look at the characters in a new novel by Shannon Peel about being single as a 40+ year old in today’s online dating environment. The novel, like all literature, draws from real life but embellishes it, changes it, and merges it together with fantasy. You won’t find a 100% true story on the blog or in the novel. She welcomes any dating stories you would like to share for the book but understand the story will only be a jump off point as she isn’t about to publish anything exactly as it happened. Email her today at Shannonpeel01[ at ]gmail [.com]

And yes…. Dating stories about women behaving badly are welcome too, as my characters are flawed and handicapped when it comes to dating.

 

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Shannon Peel is the author of THIRTEEN a book about a boy and his mom caught behind enemy lines when soldiers attack their North American hometown. The story asks the question, what if it happened here?

For more information check out her website.www.shannonpeel.com 

 

 

Lindsay – The Fun One

When you write a novel you have to know your characters inside and out. The more developed the characters, the more believable and empathetic they are. The aim of any good writer is to draw the reader in by making their characters relatable.

For this novel there are a number of characters and each one has their own back story, personality, likes, dislikes, and attitudes. Lindsay is one of these characters.

Demographics

Name: Lindsay Hart
Age: 47 years old
Status: Divorced twice over
Occupation: None
Children: 2 – both girls live with their fathers
Body Type: Tall and Slender

Personality

Lindsay likes to have fun. Always has. If there is a party, chances are Lindsay started it. She loves men, especially all the attention they lavish on her. No man can resist her charms, when she has her eyes set on bedding a man, nothing stops her. Not even a wedding ring, especially not a wedding ring. She considers married men bonus points because she is able to show them what a real woman is like in bed and loves the thrill of getting them to stray. Nothing personal ladies, it’s all in fun. In her opinion if wifey can’t please her man she deserves to have him stolen for a few hours.

She is constantly at the gym and the aging process is stressing her out. She is not about to let her looks go, she isn’t ready to hang up the party hat yet. She is still gorgeous and looks no older than 29, that’s what everyone tells her anyway.

To Lindsay, looks are everything and she has noticed that the partying has begun to take it’s toll and she’s not happy about it.

Marriage

Marriage 1: Lindsay married Joey after she got pregnant with his kid, well she thinks it’s his. She’s 75% sure it’s his, maybe 50%. Still he believed her and married her. It was a disaster. All they did was fight, he expected her to stay home every night and take care of the baby. She lasted until the baby was two, then after a big blow out she walked out and moved in with her boyfriend of the time. She can’t remember what his name was. She saw the girl, Destiny, once a month until the girl turned 12 and decided that time with her mother was not important. The girl is 30 now.

Marriage 2: Lindsay married Michael for his money. She admits it. He was 18 years older than her and rich. Very rich. More than enough to share with her she thought. She got knocked up to get him to give her a ring and a very lucrative pre-nuptial agreement. This marriage lasted almost 7 years before his lawyers ganged up on her and forced her from the man’s home and life. Worse, they took away her 6 year old daughter, Evelyn, by declaring her an unfit mother. They even had the nerve to have Destiny testify. The nerve of them. She is bitter about it. Still, she walked away with a nice annual pay cheque and a fully paid for condo.

Family

Her dad walked out on her and her mom who had a string of boyfriends afterwards. She made friends everywhere she went and lived with her mom until she was 16. Lindsay was in love with a 16 year old boy, her first love, she thought they’d get married until she found her mom in bed with him. Her mom told her to calm down, it was just sex, and she could join them. Lindsay packed a bag and never looked back. She heard her mom died of a heroine overdose, Lindsay didn’t attend the funeral.

Likes Dislikes

Lindsay loves men and sex. Wine is her drink of choice, but let’s face it, she’ll drink anything you put in her hand. She spends lots of time shopping for clothes and that is how she met Charlie, in Nordstrom’s changing room. They talked about clothes, sex, and men, from that moment on they were BFF’s.

Lindsay hates reading, she can’t stand housework or any kind of work. Her biggest fear is growing old and wrinkles are a thing to be destroyed. Don’t ask her to go camping or hiking she’ll turn and walk out the door. If it’s not 5 star it’s not going to happen.

Ideal Man

Her ideal man is hot, young and gorgeous. She will have fun with any man who catches her eye, however, the one she is searching for is in his 30s, hot, and if he has money all the better. If he doesn’t, it’s not a deal breaker they can live off her ex husband’s generous stipend, just as long as he’s hot and makes the old bastard jealous.

 

Lindsay’s story starts here

Buy the novella – Sunday Dinner From Amazon.

Purpose of this Blog

This blog is a look at the characters in a new novel by Shannon Peel about being single as a 40+ year old in today’s online dating environment. The novel, like all literature, draws from real life but embellishes it, changes it, and merges it together with fantasy. You won’t find a 100% true story on the blog or in the novel. She welcomes any dating stories you would like to share for the book but understand the story will only be a jump off point as she isn’t about to publish anything exactly as it happened. Email her today at Shannonpeel01[ at ]gmail [.com]

And yes…. Dating stories about women behaving badly are welcome too, as my characters are flawed and handicapped when it comes to dating.

 

Photo on 2014-04-17 at 12.25 PMShannon Peel is the author of THIRTEEN a story about a boy, his single mom, her cop boyfriend, a missing dad, and an invading foreign army. She explores North American life in an occupied zone with no power, no communication, and no freedoms. For more information check out her website: www.shannonpeel.com 

Rose – The Romantic One

When you write a novel you have to know your characters inside and out. The more developed the characters, the more believable and empathetic they are. The aim of any good writer is to draw the reader in by making their characters relatable.

For this novel there are a number of characters and each one has their own back story, personality, likes, dislikes, and attitudes. Rose is one of these characters.

Demographics

Name: Rose Fischer
Age: 40 years old
Status: Married
Occupation: HomeMaker
Children: Four. 3 Girls 19, 17, 15  and 1 Boy 13.
Body Type: Plump

Personality

Rose is a traditionalist. She is the quintessential homemaker who got married young and had kids right away. Her life revolves around her children and her husband. She goes to church every Sunday, has the perfect cleaned house, and a schedule the busiest professional would be hard pressed to keep up with.

She has no idea of her own self as she lives for those in her care. She controls everything in her life and believes that she is living life the right way and others need to smarten up. She loves her friends, however she is not always in agreement with their choices.

Marriage

She met her husband in high school and married him soon after graduation. Her and Gus have been married for 21 blissful years in Rose’s opinion. She can’t see her life with anyone except Gus. He is her rock and he works very hard to provide for his family. They work as a close knit team giving their children the perfect suburban life.

Family

Rose is close to both her parents and her in laws. Every week she has a number of family demands, the children have activities and Rose hosts both families for a weekly family dinner.

She has two older sisters, one is an executive in New York and the other is a lawyer. Her sisters recently moved their elderly parents to the city into an assisted living facility. Rose thinks she did it to make things harder for her because she knows Rose can’t get to the city very often.

Two of Gus’ brothers are married and one is still single. His oldest brother brings his family to the weekly dinners, his other older brother lives in Chicago and his younger brother travels the world for work.

Likes and Dislikes

Rose likes doing things for her children, cooking, baking, sewing, fixing, driving, tutoring, and whatever else they need. She reads romance novels every night before bed and has seen every romantic movie ever made.

Rose doesn’t like it when her plans are disrupted.

Man

Gus is her life. He has been a good husband and together they have created a life they are both proud of. He is romantic, hard working, God fearing, and family focused.

The start of Rose’s story

Buy the novella – Sunday Dinner From Amazon.

Purpose of this Blog

This blog is a look at the characters in a new novel about being a 40+ year old woman in today’s world. The novel, like all literature, draws from real life but embellishes it, changes it, and merges it together with fantasy. You won’t find a 100% true story on the blog or in the novel. I welcomes any parenting or dating stories you would like to share for the book, but please understand the story will only be a jump off point as I’m not about to publish anything exactly as it happened. Email her today at Shannonpeel01[ at ]gmail [.com]

And yes…. Dating stories about women behaving badly are welcome too, as my characters are flawed and handicapped when it comes to dating.

 

Photo on 2014-04-17 at 12.25 PM

Shannon Peel is the author of THIRTEEN a book about a boy and his mom caught behind enemy lines when soldiers attack their North American hometown. The story asks the question, what if it happened here?

For more information check out her website.www.shannonpeel.com 

 

 

Charlie – The Jaded One

When you write a novel you have to know your characters. The more developed the characters, the more believable and empathetic they are.

For this novel there are a number of characters and each one has their own back story, personality, likes, dislikes, and attitudes. Charlie is one of these characters.

Demographics

Name: Charlene (Charlie) Reed-Reynolds
Age: 46 years old
Status: Divorced
Occupation: Lawyer
Children: One 12 year old boy
Body Type: Overweight but not obese

Personality

Charlie is a strong minded, intelligent woman whose brain gets the best of her. She sees deception and ulterior motives with every man. She is the devil’s advocate, the realist, the nay sayer, and the argumentative one. All of which make her good at her job, but terrible as a single woman.

She is a perfectionist and is overweight, but not obese. She is very self conscious about it and thinks that everyone else sees her as fat. She is always complaining that she is too busy to get to a gym, as she eats the last doughnut in the coffee room. She has very little will power where food is concerned as she uses comfort food to feel better during highly emotional times.

Marriage

Charlie was married to David for 10 years. Their relationship was more of a business arrangement than a romantic love match. Charlie had deduced that David was a good match, they wanted the same things out of life and would work well together. This resulted in David becoming increasingly unhappy and blaming Charlie for all their problems. In the end David had an affair that lasted 2 years before Charlie discovered it, at which point she promptly left and took him to the cleaners.

Family

Charlie’s parents are elderly and need extra care. Charlie has put them into an assisted living complex where she visits regularly and complains that her sisters don’t do enough to help out. Her mother is set in her ways and her father is over bearing and opinionated about everything. A good old fashioned middle American Grumpy old man.

Charlie has two younger sisters. One lives in New York and is an executive at a large bank. The youngest, Rose lives in suburbia with her husband, Gus and four children

Likes and Dislikes

Charlie enjoys the arts, mainly because she isn’t artistic and is amazed at the talent some people have. She is a bit of a geek and enjoys super hero movies, sci fi, fantasy and action films. She hates romantic girly movies as she believes Hollywood’s idea of love is fake, unrealistic, and the basis of all failed marriages, including hers.

She hates green vegetables and sweat exerting exercise. She likes to walk and shop in the many stores the city has to offer. She is very much a city girl and hates the idea of roughing it. To her anything below 4 stars is roughing it.

Ideal Man

Charlie wants a man who is perfect. About 5’10 – 5’11, smart, well educated, and enjoys the same things she does. A man who can fit into her professional social world of conservative suits. David was too blue collar, this time she wants a white collar man who looks good in a suit and won’t embarrass her at the office Christmas Party.

She’s been dating men for over 5 years now and has yet to find love.

Charlie’s Story starts here

Buy the novella – Sunday Dinner From Amazon.

Purpose of this Blog

This blog is a look at the characters in a new novel by Shannon Peel about being single as a 40+ year old in today’s online dating environment. The novel, like all literature, draws from real life but embellishes it, changes it, and merges it together with fantasy. You won’t find a 100% true story on the blog or in the novel. She welcomes any dating stories you would like to share for the book but understand the story will only be a jump off point as she isn’t about to publish anything exactly as it happened. Email her today. shannonpeel01[ at ]gmail [.com]

And yes…. Dating stories about women behaving badly are welcome too, as my characters are flawed and handicapped when it comes to dating.

 

Photo on 2014-04-17 at 12.25 PMShannon Peel is the author of THIRTEEN a story about a boy, his single mom, her cop boyfriend, a missing dad, and an invading foreign army. She explores North American life in an occupied zone with no power, no communication, and no freedoms. For more information check out her website: www.shannonpeel.com 

 

The Character Development

The first part of writing a novel is figuring out what it’s about. The next step is to figure out who is going to tell the story.

Defining the characters is important to any story. You can’t throw your characters into situations if you don’t know how they’ll behave. The best stories are the ones with authentic characters with flaws. These are the kinds of characters I want to develop for this story.

 

Who is the story about?

The Jaded one  – The one who is bitter about men

The Romantic one  – The one who is happily married

The Fun one – The one who parties and has lots of men

The Tragic one – The one who is hurting and lost

 

These are the characters I am starting with. I will draw from my life experience and the stories I read, am told, and share with others to define the characters and their journey through life.

What do you think?  Am I missing someone? Is there a type of relationship or woman that you think I need to explore and add to the group?

 

Purpose of this Blog

This blog is a look at the characters in a new novel about being single as a 40+ year old in today’s online dating environment. The novel, like all literature, draws from real life but embellishes it, changes it, and merges it together with fantasy. You won’t find a 100% true story on the blog or in the novel. I welcomes any dating stories you would like to share for the book, but please understand the story will only be a jump off point as I’m not about to publish anything exactly as it happened. Email her today at Shannonpeel01[ at ]gmail [.com]

And yes…. Dating stories about women behaving badly are welcome too, as my characters are flawed and handicapped when it comes to dating.

 

Photo on 2014-04-17 at 12.25 PMShannon Peel is the author of THIRTEEN, a marketing professional, a single mom, and a divorced woman trying to find love in Vancouver, BC Canada. Her daily life is filled with struggle, humour, love, and stories. She encourages you to follow her and come along this journey with her.