Why FWBs Are A Good Option

Warning this post talks about sex. Shhh don’t tell anyone. Worse, it talks about casual sex with FWBs. I know shame on me. If you find this post offensive. Do not start reading the 40 Something series.

Lindsay, a character from the series, wanted to share her thoughts on FWBs and why she uses them. This is a work of fiction and in no way are a reflection of my personal opinions.

Lindsay is a Character

I can’t get enough sex. I love sex. My body craves it, needs it, demands it.

I love men. I love everything about them. The way they smell. The way they feel wrapped around me. The way they sound. The way they taste. I can’t get enough of them.

Most of the men I meet online are not boyfriend material. They are emotionally closed off. They have demanding careers. They are looking for a specific woman and I’m not it. I’m seeking a certain kind of man and they aren’t it. There are so many reasons why he isn’t the one. That doesn’t mean we can’t have some fun.

Some men are studs some are duds.

I’d rather have sex right away and find out if he’s a dud or a stud. No use getting all emotionally entangled to find out he isn’t any good in the sac.

The young boys are too inexperienced and insecure to know how to please a woman, however they are teachable and when you teach them they are like rabbits. I don’t mind being their Mrs. Robinson. I just don’t want to be teaching a young buck long term. What can a boy give me besides a never ending F***? Not much.

The guys in their mid life crisis phase are too selfish to be good lovers. They don’t care if you’re having fun. They just want get themselves off. A selfish lover is the worst kind and if I come across one, it’s never a repeat engagement, no matter how much he calls me the next day.

Older men know how to please a woman, they just don’t have the stamina to keep up. That might be why they spend so much time on foreplay and using their fingers to do mind blowing things. Mind blowing. They are creative, however, they can’t exactly keep it hard and I like a large, thick, hard… Well you know.

When I find a guy who knows what he’s doing in the bedroom, one who can blow my mind, I keep him around, even if he isn’t boyfriend material outside it.

That’s why I have more than one FWB. You know, friend with benefits. A guy you call up and go over to his place to hang out and get f***** right. Where when you leave, your not expecting him to call the next day because quite frankly, you don’t want him to.

Take Mark, my favourite FWB.

He’s about 56 years old and owns some kind of business, don’t ask, I don’t care what he does. He lives down the street from me in a beautiful condo overlooking the bay. He has great taste in art and an Interior Decorator to die for. In fact, I stole her to give my place a much needed face lift.

Marc isn’t interested in falling in love. He doesn’t want a girlfriend. He definitely does not want a wife. He likes his place and his life just the way it is. Drama and problem free.

I love his c****. I’m not too crazy about him. He only talks about himself and doesn’t much care about my life or making sure I’m happy. Satisfied yes, happy, no. His number one rule – Keep your problems at the door.

Why do I bother hanging out with Mark? He’s hot. He’s sexy. And when I leave his place, I can barely walk and I’m intoxicated from the amount of released chemicals pumping through my system.

I don’t love Mark, don’t even like him much, but I sure love getting F***** by him.

I have a few guys like this, each one f***s me a different way. Some are better than others. Each one fulfills a different fantasy.

What’s wrong with that?

Your Thoughts

Back to the author of the series….

Thanks for your thoughts Lindsay. Personally, I do not use FWBs. I’m not emotionally detached enough or masculine enough to survive such an arrangement. I know this about myself. I do know some women who are quite happy with these types of arrangements. It’s part of their dating game plan and it works for them.

That’s the great thing about people, we’re all different.

What is your opinion on the topic?  Put in the comments section.

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Purpose of this Blog

This blog is a look at the characters in a new series about being a 40+ year old woman in today’s world. This novel takes from real life, stories women have shared, stories men have shared, books I have read, movies I have watched. It takes all the information and merges it, mixes, it, embellishes it. You won’t find a 100% true story on the blog or in the novel.

I welcome any 40 Something stories you would like to share for the book, but please understand the story will only be a jump off point for the characters as I’m not about to publish anything exactly as it happened.

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And yes…. Dating stories about women behaving badly are welcome too, as my characters are flawed and handicapped when it comes to dating.

Photo on 2014-04-17 at 12.25 PMShannon Peel is the author of THIRTEEN a book about a boy and his mom caught behind enemy lines when soldiers attack their North American hometown. The story asks the question, what if it happened here?

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Purpose of this Blog

This blog is a look at the characters in a new novel about being a 40+ year old woman in today’s world. The novel, like all literature, draws from real life but embellishes it, changes it, and merges it together with fantasy. You won’t find a 100% true story on the blog or in the novel. I welcomes any parenting or dating stories you would like to share for the book, but please understand the story will only be a jump off point as I’m not about to publish anything exactly as it happened. Email her today at Shannonpeel01[ at ]gmail [.com]

And yes…. Dating stories about women behaving badly are welcome too, as my characters are flawed and handicapped when it comes to dating.

 

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Shannon Peel is the author of THIRTEEN a book about a boy and his mom caught behind enemy lines when soldiers attack their North American hometown. The story asks the question, what if it happened here?

For more information check out her website.www.shannonpeel.com 

 

Lindsay – The Fun One

When you write a novel you have to know your characters inside and out. The more developed the characters, the more believable and empathetic they are. The aim of any good writer is to draw the reader in by making their characters relatable.

For this novel there are a number of characters and each one has their own back story, personality, likes, dislikes, and attitudes. Lindsay is one of these characters.

Demographics

Name: Lindsay Hart
Age: 47 years old
Status: Divorced twice over
Occupation: None
Children: 2 – both girls live with their fathers
Body Type: Tall and Slender

Personality

Lindsay likes to have fun. Always has. If there is a party, chances are Lindsay started it. She loves men, especially all the attention they lavish on her. No man can resist her charms, when she has her eyes set on bedding a man, nothing stops her. Not even a wedding ring, especially not a wedding ring. She considers married men bonus points because she is able to show them what a real woman is like in bed and loves the thrill of getting them to stray. Nothing personal ladies, it’s all in fun. In her opinion if wifey can’t please her man she deserves to have him stolen for a few hours.

She is constantly at the gym and the aging process is stressing her out. She is not about to let her looks go, she isn’t ready to hang up the party hat yet. She is still gorgeous and looks no older than 29, that’s what everyone tells her anyway.

To Lindsay, looks are everything and she has noticed that the partying has begun to take it’s toll and she’s not happy about it.

Marriage

Marriage 1: Lindsay married Joey after she got pregnant with his kid, well she thinks it’s his. She’s 75% sure it’s his, maybe 50%. Still he believed her and married her. It was a disaster. All they did was fight, he expected her to stay home every night and take care of the baby. She lasted until the baby was two, then after a big blow out she walked out and moved in with her boyfriend of the time. She can’t remember what his name was. She saw the girl, Destiny, once a month until the girl turned 12 and decided that time with her mother was not important. The girl is 30 now.

Marriage 2: Lindsay married Michael for his money. She admits it. He was 18 years older than her and rich. Very rich. More than enough to share with her she thought. She got knocked up to get him to give her a ring and a very lucrative pre-nuptial agreement. This marriage lasted almost 7 years before his lawyers ganged up on her and forced her from the man’s home and life. Worse, they took away her 6 year old daughter, Evelyn, by declaring her an unfit mother. They even had the nerve to have Destiny testify. The nerve of them. She is bitter about it. Still, she walked away with a nice annual pay cheque and a fully paid for condo.

Family

Her dad walked out on her and her mom who had a string of boyfriends afterwards. She made friends everywhere she went and lived with her mom until she was 16. Lindsay was in love with a 16 year old boy, her first love, she thought they’d get married until she found her mom in bed with him. Her mom told her to calm down, it was just sex, and she could join them. Lindsay packed a bag and never looked back. She heard her mom died of a heroine overdose, Lindsay didn’t attend the funeral.

Likes Dislikes

Lindsay loves men and sex. Wine is her drink of choice, but let’s face it, she’ll drink anything you put in her hand. She spends lots of time shopping for clothes and that is how she met Charlie, in Nordstrom’s changing room. They talked about clothes, sex, and men, from that moment on they were BFF’s.

Lindsay hates reading, she can’t stand housework or any kind of work. Her biggest fear is growing old and wrinkles are a thing to be destroyed. Don’t ask her to go camping or hiking she’ll turn and walk out the door. If it’s not 5 star it’s not going to happen.

Ideal Man

Her ideal man is hot, young and gorgeous. She will have fun with any man who catches her eye, however, the one she is searching for is in his 30s, hot, and if he has money all the better. If he doesn’t, it’s not a deal breaker they can live off her ex husband’s generous stipend, just as long as he’s hot and makes the old bastard jealous.

 

Lindsay’s story starts here

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Purpose of this Blog

This blog is a look at the characters in a new novel by Shannon Peel about being single as a 40+ year old in today’s online dating environment. The novel, like all literature, draws from real life but embellishes it, changes it, and merges it together with fantasy. You won’t find a 100% true story on the blog or in the novel. She welcomes any dating stories you would like to share for the book but understand the story will only be a jump off point as she isn’t about to publish anything exactly as it happened. Email her today at Shannonpeel01[ at ]gmail [.com]

And yes…. Dating stories about women behaving badly are welcome too, as my characters are flawed and handicapped when it comes to dating.

 

Photo on 2014-04-17 at 12.25 PMShannon Peel is the author of THIRTEEN a story about a boy, his single mom, her cop boyfriend, a missing dad, and an invading foreign army. She explores North American life in an occupied zone with no power, no communication, and no freedoms. For more information check out her website: www.shannonpeel.com